Go fetch! (…me a Date)

Want her number? You should read this story-It’s got legs.

Dog-go fetch

Picture copyrighted to Redheadedninja “Used with permission”

Ladies and gentleman, make no mistake about it. You’ve been looking for love in all the wrong places. You should have been looking in all the dog places, instead. At least, that’s according to Deborah Wood, author of The dog lover’s guide to dating: Using cold noses to find warm hearts. Wood claims that dogs are the ideal date bait. And, according to science, she might be right.

Animal attraction

Anthropologist Peter Gray and his research team from the University of Nevada gave the matter some thought. The team looked at the role pets play in the dating arena. They set out to ask questions such as do pets increase your sex appeal? and are some pets better at scoring a date than others?’

The researchers noticed that females put more time into direct care-taking while males put more energy into their reproductive success. Therefore, the researchers hypothesized that single women will place more value on how a potential mate treats a pet while men will be more likely to employ their pet as a “social tool” to attract a potential mate.

Given that dogs require more care than a cat, they also hypothesized that owning a dog would trump owning a cat in the dating arena. A dog being a better indicator of a person’s ‘warm and fuzzy’ caregiving capabilities.

The study

Gray and his colleagues collaborated with PetSmart – a pet supplies company – to recruit 1,210 single pet owners via the online dating site, Match.com.

Online subjects were given a 21-question survey on how pets factored into people’s dating lives. It included questions such as ‘What is the hottest pet a guy could own? And, ‘If your date’s pet could fit into her handbag, is that a turn-on, a turn-off, or neither?’

The results: <drumroll>

1. Can’t buy me love. That’s right. Ditch the expensive pet shop. Instead, get a rescue pet. Not only is it way cooler and more ethical to adopt a dog but here’s a hint: It also brings your SexyBack. Yeah.

Survey says: 59% of the singles said pet adoption makes you more attractive.

2. Barking up the wrong tree. Whatever you do, don’t tell a gorgeous girl in the room that you hate cats. Chances are she has three of them.

Survey says: 66% of men and women would not date you if you don’t like pets.

3. Head of the pack. There is nothing more appealing to a gal then when you act all lovey-dovey with your pet, right in front of her. It shows you do have a soft and nurturing side. And gals, if you really love cats and you want to hug every cat, and you’re sorry, but all you can think about is cats, well, it might just be a problem.


Survey says: 70% of singles would judge their date based on the way they acted towards a pet. Sorry, E-harmony cat lady

4. This dog can hunt. Guys, you got this one.

Survey says: 22% of men and 4% of women admitted to using their dog as a date bait. Meet your new best wingman.


5. There’s no dog in this fight. If you’re a ‘cat person’, be prepared to stick with your own kind.

Survey says: ‘Cat people’ are more open to relationships with ‘dog people’ than ‘dog people’ are to ‘cat people.’ If you wanna hold her hand? Looks like you both need to be cat people. Or you both need to be dog people…or

6. Pet purse peeve. Pooch-in-a-designer-bag? Looks like she’s an uptown girl, living in an uptown world.

Survey says: If a women’s pet can fit in her handbag, she’s just turned off 28% of the men.

And last but not least, here’s the clincher…

7. She’s only got puppy eyes for you. If you want to be sexy, get a dog.

Survey says: 72% of women say a dog is the “hottest pet a guy could own.”

Well, the cat’s outta the bag on this one. It looks like owning a dog truly is the ultimate date bait. And adoption is the trifecta – not only is it smokin’ hot, it saves lives, and may even just win you a date.

For more information on how you can adopt your next pet, visit your local pet adoption agency or visit http://www.adoptapet.com/dog-adoption

Sly looking dog


Til Genetics Do Us Part

Newly married couple march newsletter

It’s complicated….. Whether or not a couple can weather through the storms of conflict or not depends not only upon our emotions but also according to research, what’s hard-wired in our genes.

Emotions play an extremely important role in the stability and longevity of a marriage. Let’s face it, all couples experience some conflict in their marriage. Some may only disagree once in a blue moon. Others experience full blown power struggles, disagreements, anger, and perhaps frustration. Once the honey-moon stage is over the rose-colored glasses may slip off for some or perhaps not at all for others.

A psychologist from UC Berkeley, Dr. Robert Levenson along with 9 other researchers, published a 13 year longitudinal study of how genetics and emotions can help shape the stability of the marriage relationship.

The researchers found that certain genes allow some of us to be affected by a negative emotional climate in a marriage while other genes tell us to instead overlook the negativity. The researchers also found that some couples may become hugely satisfied in their relationship when exposed to positive emotions, while another couple may remain largely unaffected. Interestingly, Levenson also found that genetic influence on emotions actually strengthened increasingly as people got older and could eventually affect relationship outcomes.

The results centered around 5-HTTLPR, a serotonin- transporter gene that keeps our moods in check and plays an important role in whether or not over time, positive or negative emotions will affect marriage satisfaction.

The genes came in either short of long lengths. Those people who had long lengths of 5-HTTLPR were less likely to be affected by either negative or positive emotions in the marriage. Those with short lengths of the gene showed much less tolerance of negative emotions and also expressed a much stronger response of elation when things were going very well in the marriage.

So what should we do with this information? What if a simple blood test was available to check for the long or short lengths of the serotonin-transporter?

Would it be wise to screen a potential significant other? Like I said, “Til Genetics Do Us Part.”